Think about these questions before watching the video.
Do you own an item that you consider very special or irreplaceable? What makes it so important to you?
Have you ever found it difficult to get rid of old belongings, even if you no longer use them?
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Watch the video carefully. Pay attention to the main ideas and key details.
Video script74 segments · click a timestamp to jump
After witnessing the violent rage shown by babies
whenever deprived of an item they considered their own,
Jean Piaget, a founding father of child psychology,
observed something profound about human nature.
Our sense of ownership emerges incredibly early.
Why are we so clingy?
There's a well-established phenomenon in psychology
known as the endowment effect
where we value items much more highly just as soon as we own them.
In one famous demonstration,
students were given a choice between a coffee mug
or a Swiss chocolate bar
as a reward for helping out with research.
Half chose the mug, and half chose the chocolate.
That is, they seemed to value the two rewards similarly.
Other students were given a mug first
and then a surprise chance to swap it for a chocolate bar,
but only 11% wanted to.
Yet another group started out with chocolate,
and most preferred to keep it rather than swap.
In other words, the students nearly always put greater value
on whichever reward they started out with.
Part of this has to do with how quickly we form connections
between our sense of self and the things we consider ours.
That can even be seen at the neural level.
In one experiment, neuroscientists scanned participants' brains
while they allocated various objects either to a basket labeled "mine,"
or another labeled, "Alex's."
When participants subsequently looked at their new things,
their brains showed more activity
in a region that usually flickers into life
whenever we think about ourselves.
Another reason we're so fond of our possessions
is that from a young age we believe they have a unique essence.
Psychologists showed us this by using an illusion
to convince three to six-year-olds they built a copying machine,
a device that could create perfect replicas of any item.
When offered a choice between their favorite toy
or an apparently exact copy,
the majority of the children favored the original.
In fact, they were often horrified at the prospect of taking home a copy.
This magical thinking about objects isn't something we grow out of.
Rather it persists into adulthood while becoming ever more elaborate.
For example, consider the huge value placed on items
that have been owned by celebrities.
It's as if the buyers believed the objects they'd purchased
were somehow imbued with the essence of their former celebrity owners.
For similar reasons, many of us are reluctant to part with family heirlooms
which help us feel connected to lost loved ones.
These beliefs can even alter our perception of the physical world
and change our athletic abilities.
Participants in a recent study were told they were using a golf putter
once owned by the champion Ben Curtis.
During the experiment,
they perceived the hole as being about a centimeter larger
than controlled participants using a standard putter
and they sank slightly more putts.
Although feelings of ownership emerge early in life, culture also plays a part.
For example, it was recently discovered that Hadza people of northern Tanzania
who are isolated from modern culture
don't exhibit the endowment effect.
That's possibly because they live in an egalitarian society
where almost everything is shared.
At the other extreme, sometimes our attachment to our things can go too far.
Part of the cause of hoarding disorder is an exaggerated sense of responsibility
and protectiveness toward one's belongings.
That's why people with this condition find it so difficult to throw anything away.
What remains to be seen today
is how the nature of our relationship with our possessions
will change with the rise of digital technologies.
Many have forecast the demise of physical books and music,
but for now, at least, this seems premature.
Perhaps there will always be something uniquely satisfying
about holding an object in our hands and calling it our own.
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Answer these questions in your own words. Support your answers with evidence from the video.
01According to the video, what did Jean Piaget observe about human nature, and how was this demonstrated by the coffee mug and chocolate experiment?
Sample answerPiaget noticed that babies get very angry when something they consider theirs is taken away, which showed him that our sense of ownership starts very early. The experiment with mugs and chocolate bars proved this because students who were given a mug first usually wanted to keep it, even if they had originally valued mugs and chocolate equally. They put more value on what they already owned.
02Besides the endowment effect, what two other reasons does the video give for why we become so attached to our possessions?
Sample answerOne reason is that we quickly connect our sense of self to our belongings. Brain scans showed more activity in the 'self' region of the brain when people looked at objects they owned. Another reason is that we believe our possessions have a unique 'essence.' Children preferred their original toy over a perfect copy, showing they think the original has a special quality.
03How does the 'magical thinking' about objects, which starts in childhood, continue to influence adults, and what surprising effect can it have on our abilities?
Sample answerThis 'magical thinking' continues into adulthood, making us value things owned by celebrities or family heirlooms because we feel they carry the 'essence' of their previous owners. Surprisingly, it can even change our physical perception and abilities. For example, golfers using a putter supposedly owned by a champion perceived the hole as larger and performed slightly better.
04In what ways does culture influence our sense of ownership, and how might this understanding help us consider the future of digital possessions?
Sample answerCulture definitely plays a role in ownership. For instance, the Hadza people, who live in an egalitarian society where almost everything is shared, don't show the endowment effect. This makes me think that perhaps our attachment to digital items might be different from physical ones, depending on how our culture evolves around them. The video suggests we still find unique satisfaction in holding physical objects.
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Vocabulary
Vocabulary
These expressions will help you communicate more naturally about this topic.
Examples
sense of ownership — the feeling or belief that something belongs to you.
Usage note: This phrase is often used when discussing psychology, rights, or responsibilities. For example, "Children develop a strong sense of ownership over their toys."
become attached to (something/someone) — to start to like or feel a strong emotional connection to something or someone.
Usage note: This phrasal verb implies developing a bond. You can become attached to a pet, a person, or even an old sweater.
material possessions — the physical things that a person owns, such as clothes, furniture, or gadgets, rather than abstract concepts like skills or rights.
Usage note: This formal collocation is often used in discussions about consumerism, wealth, or minimalism. "Some people believe focusing too much on material possessions can lead to unhappiness."
part with something — to give something away or sell it, often reluctantly, because you would prefer to keep it.
Usage note: This phrasal verb suggests a degree of difficulty or emotional connection to the item being given up. "It was hard for her to part with her grandmother's old piano."
sentimental value — the importance that an object has because of your feelings and memories connected with it, rather than its monetary worth.
Usage note: This collocation explains why people keep items that are not expensive or useful. "The old teddy bear had no monetary value, but immense sentimental value."
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Attachment to belongings
Understanding why we form connections with our possessions.
Match each item on the left with the correct item on the right.
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Complete the sentences with words from the box. One word is extra.
Word bank
01Children often develop a strong over their toys, making sharing difficult.
02It's easy to old photographs and letters, even if they don't have much monetary worth.
03Many people find happiness not in accumulating more , but in experiences and relationships.
04She found it incredibly hard to her grandmother's antique watch, despite needing the money.
05The old teddy bear had immense for him, reminding him of his childhood.
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Grammar: Wish / if only
Grammar
We use 'wish' and 'if only' to express desires for things to be different, either in the present, the past, or the future. 'If only' is often stronger and more dramatic than 'wish', emphasizing a deeper longing or regret.
Examples
I wish I didn't feel so attached to all my old belongings; it makes decluttering incredibly difficult.
We use the past simple after 'wish' or 'if only' to talk about a present situation we want to be different or that is unreal.
If only I hadn't thrown away that childhood toy, I'd still have a sentimental reminder of my youth.
We use the past perfect after 'wish' or 'if only' to express regret about something that happened (or didn't happen) in the past.
I wish people wouldn't judge others solely by their possessions; it seems so superficial.
We use 'would' after 'wish' or 'if only' when we want someone or something to change their behaviour in the future, often expressing annoyance.
If only I could easily let go of items I no longer need, my home would be much tidier and less cluttered.
'If only' emphasizes the desire more strongly. 'Could' is used to express a wish for an ability or possibility in the present.
Key points
For present situations you want to change, use 'wish/if only + past simple'.
For past regrets, use 'wish/if only + past perfect'.
For future changes you want to happen (especially about others' actions), use 'wish/if only + would + base verb'.
'If only' is generally more emphatic than 'wish', conveying stronger emotion.
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Correcting errors about our belongings
Read each sentence carefully. Identify the single error and then write the corrected sentence.
Each sentence contains one error. Find and correct it.
01Babies often develop a strong sense of ownership for their toys at a very young age.
Corrected version
Babies often develop a strong sense of ownership for of their toys at a very young age.
02It's easy to become attached with old photos, even if they're not worth much money.
Corrected version
It's easy to become attached with to old photos, even if they're not worth much money.
03Many people believe that too much focus on material possession can lead to unhappiness.
Corrected version
Many people believe that too much focus on material possession possessions can lead to unhappiness.
04She found it very difficult to part from her grandmother's antique watch.
Corrected version
She found it very difficult to part from with her grandmother's antique watch.
05Despite its low monetary value, the old teddy bear held a deeply sentimental value for him.
Corrected version
Despite its low monetary value, the old teddy bear held a deeply deep sentimental value for him.
06I wish I would have kept all my childhood comic books; they'd be worth a fortune now.
Corrected version
I wish I would have had kept all my childhood comic books; they'd be worth a fortune now.
07The psychological phenomenon of the endowment effect explains why we often overvalue things we already own them.
Corrected version
The psychological phenomenon of the endowment effect explains why we often overvalue things we already own. them.
08If only I didn't throw away that vintage jacket, it would be perfectly in style today.
Corrected version
If only I didn't throw hadn't thrown away that vintage jacket, it would be perfectly in style today.
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Rewrite each sentence using 'wish' or 'if only' to express a desire for a different present or past situation.
01I regret selling that old watch; it had so much sentimental value.
Rewrite using 'wish' or 'if only'.
Hint: This is a regret about a past action. Use 'if only' with the past perfect.
02It's a shame I get so easily attached to all my material possessions.
Rewrite using 'wish' or 'if only'.
Hint: This is a wish about a current situation. Use 'wish' with the past simple.
03I really don't want to part with this antique lamp, but I need the space.
Rewrite using 'wish' or 'if only'.
Hint: This expresses a desire for a different present situation. Use 'wish' with the past simple.
04My friend finds it so hard to part with things, even if they're broken.
Rewrite using 'wish' or 'if only'.
Hint: This is a wish about someone else's current tendency. Use 'wish' with the past simple.
05I didn't realize how strong my sense of ownership was until I almost lost my favorite book.
Rewrite using 'wish' or 'if only'.
Hint: This is a regret about a past lack of awareness. Use 'if only' with the past perfect.
06It's a pity that people often value new gadgets more than items with a rich history.
Rewrite using 'wish' or 'if only'.
Hint: This expresses a wish for a different general situation in the present. Use 'wish' with the past simple.
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Useful phrases: Discussing decluttering personal items
Vocabulary
When you're trying to organize your home, move, or simply reduce the number of things you own, talking about decluttering can be a common conversation. These phrases will help you express your feelings, ask for advice, and share strategies when discussing your material possessions.
Examples
''I'm trying to declutter my apartment, and it's harder than I thought.'' — Initiating the conversation, expressing a personal challenge.
Register: Neutral to informal. Use when starting a conversation about your own efforts to organize or minimize possessions.
''It's surprisingly difficult to part with things, even if I haven't used them in ages.'' — Expressing a common difficulty, explaining reluctance.
Register: Neutral. Use when you want to explain why you or someone else might be struggling to get rid of items.
''I know I should probably get rid of it, but it has a lot of sentimental value for me.'' — Justifying keeping an item despite its lack of practical use, highlighting emotional attachment.
Register: Neutral. Use when explaining why a particular item is hard to let go of, emphasizing personal connection over monetary worth.
''How do you decide what to keep and what to get rid of?'' — Asking for advice or strategies on decluttering.
Register: Neutral. Use when seeking practical tips or insights from others about managing possessions.
''I find it helps to ask myself if I've used it in the last year.'' — Offering a personal strategy or piece of advice.
Register: Neutral. Use when sharing a helpful tip or method you use for deciding what to keep or discard.
''Honestly, sometimes it's just better to let go and create more space.'' — Giving a direct opinion or strong advice, emphasizing the benefit of decluttering.
Register: Neutral to slightly informal. Use when offering a firm perspective on the benefits of parting with items, often after a discussion of the difficulties.
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Our deep connection to belongings
Understanding why we form strong bonds with our possessions.
Fill in each blank with the correct word from the word bank.
Word bank
Humans often develop a strong of ownership over their belongings, even from a young age. This psychological phenomenon explains why we can attached to even seemingly insignificant possessions. It's not just about an item's monetary worth; often, it holds immense value, reminding us of cherished memories or people. Consequently, it can be incredibly difficult to with things we've owned for a long time, even if they no longer serve a practical purpose. Our emotional connection often outweighs logic, making decluttering a real challenge.
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Complete the sentences with words from the box. One word is extra.
Word bank
01Even young children develop a strong over their toys, making it difficult for them to share.
02It's easy to old photographs and souvenirs, as they often hold precious memories.
03Some people believe that focusing too much on can detract from true happiness.
04Despite its broken screen, she couldn't bring herself to her first smartphone because of all the memories.
05The antique watch had little monetary worth, but its was immense as it belonged to her grandfather.
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Words to take with you
Vocabulary
These expressions are not in the video but will help you discuss this topic more fluently.
Examples
accumulate — to gradually get more and more of something over a period of time.
This verb is often used when talking about acquiring possessions, wealth, or even knowledge. Example: "Many people tend to accumulate a lot of belongings over their lifetime without even realizing it."
declutter — to remove things that you do not need from a place, in order to make it tidier and more pleasant.
This verb is frequently used when discussing organizing homes or simplifying one's life. Example: "I'm trying to declutter my apartment before I move, but it's harder than I thought."
prize possession — an item that is considered very valuable or important by its owner.
Use this phrase to refer to a specific object that someone cherishes above others. Example: "His vintage camera is his prize possession; he takes it everywhere."
consumerism — the belief that buying and owning many goods and services is important for personal happiness and economic growth.
This term is often used in discussions about modern society, economics, and environmental impact. Example: "Some critics argue that consumerism encourages people to constantly desire new items, leading to waste."
let go of (something) — to stop holding or keeping something, often implying a release of physical items or emotional attachments.
This phrasal verb can be used for both physical objects and abstract concepts like feelings or ideas. Example: "It can be challenging to let go of old items that hold special memories, even if you no longer need them."
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Use the word in brackets to form a new word that fits each gap.
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Many people develop a strong attitude towards items they consider theirs.
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It can be incredibly difficult to ourselves from objects that hold deep personal memories.
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The constant advertising often promotes a culture of , encouraging us to buy more.
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She felt a great to part with her childhood toys, even though they were gathering dust.
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For many, old photographs have immense value, far exceeding their monetary worth.
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The strong sense of people feel towards their homes often makes them protective.